New Info From Walter Thompson -via Msdaol, Danny's side of the story with details- Options

[sonshineonme]

Don't go matchmaking where there is no interest. Did it ever occur to anyone that there never was that kind of interest between Linda and the Doctor. It is really embarrassing to have people assume there is when there is nothing.

Linda behaved herself and acted like a married person. Another married woman on the other hand was supposed to have been flirting with him but his attention was directed neither Linda or the other married woman but to a non Adventist lady had who was single as he was single and whom he had invited as his guest.

Linda and the Dr. have had nothing but a friendship from the beginning till now. That's just how it is. She has been fortunate to have his friendship through all this too. Will she someday be married or date, only time will tell, the hurt and betrayal she has been through and is experiencing now will take her much time to work through (she told me it will take her a while) and she is smart enough to know this. Even if she meets prince charming somewhere along her journey, it will take her time to really trust again. I'm sure she will do what she can (reading books, counseling,etc) to get the healing and learn from it all. She is a smart lady - a bit on the naive side - but SMART and INTELLIGENT still!!

[Brennen]

Something is missing here. What happened to the marriage between Linda and Danny Shelton before the Doctor. got into the picture. If she was so intense with the Doctor, what happened before that relationship?. Nothing happens in a vacuum, and certainly not with Linda Shelton. I suggest the Linda would not have done anything to destroy her marriage and she did not. The marriage was weak and gone long before all of this. Why is Dr. Walter Thompson leaving out the most crucial points. If she did as he said, what would lead a woman to need another relationship outside of her marriage? Was the relationship with the doctor a deep friendship? If so, why should it end. I suggest that the Shelton’s marriage was long gone down the drain long before all of this. When we focus on Linda’s side it look very bad (to the untrained eye). But when we look at the total picture, I see a snake in the grass. Let us all ask the question: “What was wrong in the marriage one year before all of this happened? Was Danny Shelton truly abusive. Dr. Thompson suggestion is that only physical abuse is really bad. As a specialist in dealing with toxic intimacy, I know that emotional, verbal and psychological abuse is just a deadly and oftentimes worse. Come on Dr. Thompson, tell us more. Be honest. Or do you really know all the dark secrets long before all of this.

[justme]

We are told in inspiration that Satan likes nothing better than to put together two people in marriage who will later turn against each other; because it destroys the children, the families from each side, and all their friends. To put together two individuals who do not belong together is Satan's most efficient tool to hurt the children of God. It destroys all the good that God designed to come from a Godly union.

The top priorities in considering marriage are:
Will this union Glorify God?
Will this marriage do more to glorify God than we can do individually as single people?

Give the idea of the marriage to God and ask if He WANTS it to be. Then, in purity of heart realize that each person belongs first to God, not to "me".

If God gives you back to each other then proceed carefully, with scripture in hand. There is no greater love for another than that placed there by God Himself.

Matchmaking is a tool of Satan. It is diabolical in it's premise. It falls into the realm of parapsychology to suggest that two people, not guided by God, should pursue each other.

For others to suggest that two "might otta" date each other is to supplant the Holy Spirit in their lives. Tell them to surrender to God and see whom HE suggests.

As mentioned before by someone "with six decades of experience", that all too often two hurting souls find solace in each other's company. They may marry. The source of the hurting dies away and now they no longer have anything in common. They wonder why they married in the first place.

Jacob had a potential wife selected FOR him, by his father's servant. When he actually saw her in person, the one God chose for him, he "loved her and went into his mother's tent to marry her". Notice that, even tho' God chose her, it was still up to Jacob to love her, or not to love her. Ultimately it WAS Jacob's choice to love or not to love, but God gave Jacob God's first choice for a wife.

I can tell you from experience that there is no greater joy than to be married to a woman who was sent by God. It proves itself true every year, every decade. It's as though you are reborn each and every day. God knows how to do it, ... right!




This post has been edited by justme: Sep 15 2006, 09:32 PM

[simplysaved]

That was beautiful! Thank you for sharing that testimony.....it is very encouraging.

We are told in inspiration that Satan likes nothing better than to put together two people in marriage who will later turn against each other; because it destroys the children, the families from each side, and all their friends. To put together two individuals who do not belong together is Satan's most efficient tool to hurt the children of God. It destroys all the good that God designed to come from a Godly union.

The top priorities in considering marriage are:
Will this union Glorify God?
Will this marriage do more to glorify God than we can do individually as single people?

Give the idea of the marriage to God and ask if He WANTS it to be. Then, in purity of heart realize that each person belongs first to God, not to "me".

If God gives you back to each other then proceed carefully, with scripture in hand. There is no greater love for another than that placed there by God Himself.

Matchmaking is a tool of Satan. It is diabolical in it's premise. It falls into the realm of parapsychology to suggest that two people, not guided by God, should pursue each other.

For others to suggest that two "might otta" date each other is to supplant the Holy Spirit in their lives. Tell them to surrender to God and see whom HE suggests.

As mentioned before by someone "with six decades of experience", that all too often two hurting souls find solace in each other's company. They may marry. The source of the hurting dies away and now they no longer have anything in common. They wonder why they married in the first place.

Jacob had a potential wife selected FOR him, by his father's servant. When he actually saw her in person, the one God chose for him, he "loved her and went into his mother's tent to marry her". Notice that, even tho' God chose her, it was still up to Jacob to love her, or not to love her. Ultimately it WAS Jacob's choice to love or not to love, but God gave Jacob God's first choice for a wife.

I can tell you from experience that there is no greater joy than to be married to a woman who was sent by God. It proves itself true every year, every decade. It's as though you are reborn each and every day. God knows how to do it, ... right!